Yesterday I shared just a few good things that happened then I asked what good had happened in my friend’s day? I’m so glad I asked because their good stories added to my good day. And I think I want to do more of that. Focus on the good things and listen to other good stories.
Remember that wall that came crashing down last week? Like literally a wall, a block wall. California really needs rain and it has been coming in buckets and even though it took down our wall I still love the rain. The very day the wall came down I was baking cookies and filming the pretty rain scenes. Just maybe 10 minutes before we hear a HUGE CRACKING THUNDER SOUND, I had filmed out the back window into our yard and a little of the once standing fence is in that clip. I was going to make a sweet little rainy day video. Then the wall came crashing down and yeah, we were a little in shock to say the least. Rich looked like he was standing on another planet for a few minutes. It was like “is this a dream?” “um, did that just really happen?” So weird. He began going into immediate action…moving motorcycles, draining our pool, putting tarps over the sliding mud. Rich's dad and brother came out to help lift the fallen wood fence. I called the city and insurance within minutes of it all happening. We just started doing what had to be done. At one point I looked at Rich and said “I know there will be good that comes of this, blessings will happen” He looked at me like I was a little bit crazy, he even questioned me “what good is going to come of this?” I said “you’ll see”
Turns out insurance doesn’t cover the damages, the cost. Nothing. That’s OK though because like I mentioned yesterday in a post, we have endured far greater.
May I share just a few blessings that have already occurred? Brotherly hugs. A neighbor stopping by with donuts for Rich and his dad. Lots of offers of physical help more than I ever could have imagined. Yesterday when I got home Papa had transplanted Abbie’s tree into a bucket. It was hanging on the edge with its roots exposed. I don’t think it would have made it too much longer in that condition. We are hoping it makes the transplant. That gesture alone had me filled with such gratitude.
But the thing that got me the most yesterday was the neighbor who lives about 7 houses down who knocked on our door. You see this man almost lost his life recently. He was hospitalized for a very long time and everything that could have gone wrong went wrong. I don’t know all the details but I know he was very close to not making it. He has two very young daughters and a wife and they had not been in their house for very long before this happened. New neighbors. He is still in major rehabilitation and he walks every morning and every night. He even has been working on speaking again. He lost a lot. He stopped by to let us know he would help us with the fence. He is fighting his very own battles each and every day and he knocked on our door to offer help. These are the blessings I’m talking about. Yes my dear friends and family have also said they will help but when a stranger knocks on your door, that’s impactful beyond words. These are the blessings.
Today when I got home from work, guess who was shoveling dirt behind our house? Papa and Vincent our neighbor 7 doors down. All I could think to do was pour two tall glasses of really cold water and tell them my heart was full. These are the blessings. In lots of ways it feels very hard to accept. We want to just conquer this on our own. "we got this" "thank you but no thank you" I keep reminding myself things like, "you know how good it feels to help others....let them help you" "accept help, say yes" It's a little bit easier for me, much harder for Rich. But if we don't open our hearts and accept help we will be missing out on the blessings.
We all have battles. Some are much more difficult than others. We are not supposed to compare our battles and think maybe mine is less, yes, it might be less but as a wise friend once told me….it’s all relative. I’m finding that if we focus on the good in our tough times that it makes it much more bearable to endure. When we do for others in the midst of our own struggles it makes our heart glad. When we accept the help of others it goes beyond glad...it becomes a big blessing so big it's hard to explain and it may even bring tears of joy.